Waving the white flag: Why I’m giving up.

It started with just deleting my dating apps, all the effort I put in to messages/conversations to either be given riveting one word answers or just ignored completely. I understand, the majority of the time a woman’s inbox is much fuller than a man’s, so they obviously can’t reply to everyone, but getting one match a month if I was lucky really ate away at my self-esteem. I’ve been dating app free for more than a few months now and I don’t regret it one bit.

Here’s why I’ve decided to give up on dating completely, there are a few factors so bear with me.

  1. My age. I’m a 26 year old male with no previous relationship experience, each year I get older the redder that flag becomes to someone who might otherwise be interested.

  2. I’m not conventionally attractive enough for a significant other. My hair is thinning, next time I go to get it cut I’m getting rid of all of it. I’m not vastly overweight, but I do have a “Dad bod”. I am only 5’9, that one speaks for itself.

  3. I’m disabled. I was born with mild cerebral palsy. As a result I walk with a limp and have poor balance. Women hear the word “disability” and automatically assume that I can’t do anything for myself. They say male birth control would be too difficult to figure out ?. I’m a walking example, yes I can walk.

  4. What I was looking for isn’t popular. I want a committed relationship, but I have no desire to get married. I don’t want kids, this significantly cuts down on the numbers in my perspective dating pool as many women my age already have kids or if they don’t, they want them in the future.

Could I eat better and go back to working out? Sure I could. I stuck to a strict regiment when I played sports to keep myself in good shape. Though, even when I was in better shape it didn’t make any difference as far as my dating life was concerned.

There will probably never be a cure for my disability, not in my life time at least. With so many options out there to choose from I don’t blame women for not picking me. I wasn’t dealt a good hand in life, no point in crying over spilled milk.

The most important thing I can do is build a fulfilling and happy life, for myself and by myself. (Maybe with a dog or two included). Thanks for reading.

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