The internet has become over-saturated with “Surviving narcissist abuse” and “7 signs you are dating a narcissist” articles when the person writing the article isn’t even qualified to make such a diagnosis. Nor have they seen a professional who came to that conclusion.
It matters because people need to be accountable for their own actions. You can’t learn if you don’t acknowledge wrongdoing and the people that churn out this content almost never admit to any wrongdoing on their part. They point all blame the supposed narcissist.
There is a difference between victim shaming and medical honesty.
Some bad exes are just vanilla shitty.