I Finally Figured Out the One Thing My Life’s Been Missing

By David Wygant

August 9, 2019


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I want you to listen up…

This summer I’ve been traveling a lot again. Most recently I was in Arizona.

And I’ve been realizing what is missing in my life: freedom.

As I was driving in Arizona on a daddy/daughter trip, just allowing the beauty of the road, the scenery, the amazing company to just fully engross me, I had a moment of clarity.

I drove over 887 miles in Arizona and not one time did I get stressed out.

Even when there was congestion around Phoenix, you were still moving and you knew that you were close to the open road.

887 miles, not one time did I get stressed out. I can’t drive 8.87 seconds in Los Angeles without getting stressed out, without feeling claustrophobic, boxed in, and congested.

I am so over Los Angeles.

I want you to read on, though, because Los Angeles was a great place for me at a time in my life when I needed her to be that great place for me.

There are still many amazing, beautiful, great things about Los Angeles. But the quality of life doesn’t exist.

As I was horseback riding through the forest on my trip, I realized I could have one of these ranches. I could have animals.

I can own a horse or two.

I can have sheep, goats.

I can have freedom.

And not only can I have freedom, but the quality of life is also so much higher.

I recently did a podcast with somebody and we talked about it.

He’s got so many friends who live in LA, and they all share places so they can live in Los Angeles.

If you ask the majority of people why they live here, they tell you it’s the weather. See, they’d rather live like a rat in a box to have some extra sunshine than live in a place that has high quality of life that they can actually afford.

I think people who live in places just for the weather (and that’s their number one reason, and they’re not a triathlete, they’re not out there running every day, they just like the sunshine, but they live far below what they can have anywhere else) are ignorant idiots.

Yeah, there are some harsh terms in this blog post today, but there needs to be.

Because I experienced freedom this summer.

When I landed back in Los Angeles, all I saw was the congestion and the clutter.

As I got home, I felt boxed in. I felt claustrophobic. I felt trapped.

I have NEVER used that term in my life — trapped — at all.

It’s not something I like to use because I always feel like I can create my own destiny. And yet here I am in Los Angeles, trapped.

Trapped in a place that I outgrew years ago.

I could live anywhere now.

I’d live in Santa Fe, I’d live in Albuquerque.

I’d live up in Flagstaff, where I just was.

Live in Nashville, Tennessee.

I’d move to Denver in a second.


Because there’s freedom there.

Being able to get in a car and drive, and being able to feel free and explore.

Being able to have a high quality of life.

Being able to live in a really beautiful house that’s super affordable.

Having so much extra money in a place like that because it’s not expensive.

Being able to drive without being aggravated every eight, seven seconds.

Now, the reason why I can’t leave is because I share a daughter and it would take movement of more people.

But, I’ve got to figure this out, because this shit doesn’t work for me.

It doesn’t work. Living here doesn’t work.

I mean literally as I dictate this on my phone, I just got cut off by Power Plumbing. One of the worst drivers I’ve ever seen, ever.

Anyway, this doesn’t work. Living in an over-crowded place doesn’t work.

There’s nothing good about it.

People are here because they live here because of the ocean.

And yet, they can count on one hand the amount of times they’ve even swam in this ocean. You can stare at it, but I’d rather stare at the mountains.

That I can use. Stare at the beauty than stare at an ocean, and to pay the price for it.

I do not like this feeling of being trapped in my life.

I find it really hard to deal with, because obviously I’m about freedom.

The lessons that I teach people, really, are all about freedom. Financial, mental, emotional, sexual, romantic freedom. The freedom to tap into your limitless potential.

Yet here I am trying to define and figure out how I’m going to feel free again.

Because I’m trapped.

Trapped in a little box.

Trapped in traffic.

Trapped by high prices.

Trapped by absolutely no upside.


It’s such a powerful term.

But that’s the beauty about going away on a vacation: you actually get to figure out where you’re at in life and what you need to do.

Besides taking in the absolutely amazing scenery, the amazing experience, you need to think to yourself: where do I need to go in my life?

How do I need to thrive in my life?

Every 8.87 seconds, I’m trapped on a road full of people mesmerized by the sunshine that is so overrated.

There are so many better places to live.

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About David

1.7 million men & women come to me every month to find the secrets to success. And after 20 years of coaching, I’ve discovered the golden keys to success in dating, business, health and wellness, and life.

I’ve helped millions of men and women around the globe achieve success in their dating, social and personal lives. I’m also a father to the world’s cutest little girl, and I am an unapologetic man. Some say I’m nuts, others say I’ve changed their life forever. One thing’s for certain: I’ll always give you the truth, whether you can handle it or not. I never sugar coat anything.

Nice is so overrated. I’d prefer brutally honest breakthrough to a “nice” rut any damn day of the week. If you’re the same way, then you’ve come to the right place.

Wendy Klempt

Thursday, October 3rd, 2019

You have opened my eyes, David. I have been thinking for a long time of moving to place with year-around sunshine. But that place is very expensive to live in, and like you said, I would have to live in something similar to a kennel-size place (small bachelor apartment) for million bucks. While the place I live in now has long winters, I own a huge house with huge backyard for fraction of the price I would pay for sunshine place. Many people were trying to tell me that but I didn’t hear them because they didn’t tell my WHY I shouldn’t move to an expensive place. You explained and I heard.



Wednesday, January 22nd, 2020

You hit the nail on the head with Albuquerque! I live in ABQ. I love Los Angeles, but in the same way that I love ice cream — it’s great every once in a while, but I can’t imagine eating it every second of every day. LA is great to occasionally visit, catch a Dodger’s game, cruise Santa Monica and then go home to the freedom of space. This summer I was in LA and it took almost 2 hours to get from Santa Monica to Dodger stadium. 2 hours! You could buy a 3,000 square foot home for the price of a dumpy LA condo. The airport is minutes away. LA is a 1 hour flight away. You can still create content in ABQ, and have an infinitely higher quality of life. My last time in Santa Monica, I saw avacados for $4. Four F’ing dollars. WTF? Unsustainable. Don’t even get me started on the pollution — which literally shortens life. I don’t blame you for getting tired of LA. Eventually people get tired of being grinded out, and overpaying to live – just look at why AZ has exploded. But ABQ is a smarter choice than AZ. ABQ is right on the cusp of taking off — Netflix just came here. NBC is coming. Home prices are still reasonable. The sandia mountains are minutes away. The bosque is feet away.


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