If you spent the long weeks of lockdown getting to know someone on MySingleFriend, you’re probably thinking about meeting up in real life, now that restrictions are easing. If you’re new to online dating, or are returning after a while, it can feel a bit daunting to stop seeing someone digitally and see how you get on face to face. Here are some tips that will make the experience easier.
Don’t leave it too long
Whilst lockdown was happening you had the perfect excuse for not venturing out to meet someone if you were feeling a bit nervous. However, the longer you exchange messages, the more this person is going to seem like a casual pen friend than a potential love interest. There’s also the possibility that someone more proactive will ask them on a date and snap them up. Now you’ve developed a bit of a rapport it’s time to build on it by meeting face to face.
Offer alternative contact details
One simple way to start to move things offline is to offer your phone number. Chatting on the phone or texting generally feels more personal than on a dating site, so the offer of a date may come up more naturally this way. However, don’t just exchange messaging online for texting instead of meeting up as you still won’t have a solid idea of what they’re like.
Save some stories for the actual date
If you share too much about yourself online, you could end up without much to talk about when you actually meet up in real life, which is a sure fire way to crush any chemistry that might exist between you. There’s nothing more alluring than a bit of mystery, so don’t kill the intrigue by laying out your entire life story before they’ve even set eyes on you.
Be prepared to be disappointed
It’s easy to idealise people before you meet them and imagine they are everything you’ve dreamed of and more, but remember that these thoughts have no basis in reality until you’ve actually met someone and got to know them a bit. Lower your expectations a little and be clear about who they really are and not who you want them to be. This is a good reason to take things offline fairly quickly, rather than spending ages chatting online and feeling no chemistry when you finally get to meet.
Don’t put all your eggs in one basket
When dating online, the likelihood is that you won’t meet your soulmate on the first date, so you need to give yourself plenty of options. If you spend ages talking to just one person, you’re missing out on lots of other potential dates. Chatting to lots of different people and going on lots of dates will hugely enhance your chances of quickly meeting someone that you really click with.
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