How to know if someone likes you

When you’re talking to someone online it can sometimes be hard to tell if they might ‘like you’ like you or if they’re just being polite. It’s good to know if someone is interested in you romantically, so that you don’t waste your time or pin your hopes on something that isn’t leading anywhere. Here are 8 ways to know if someone likes you online.

1. They ask well thought-out questions and are interested in your answers.

One of the ways to know if someone likes you is by the kind of questions they ask you. If someone has put some thought into their questions and are listening intently to the answers you give, this is a sure sign that they like you and are not just going through the motions. Asking open-ended questions that allow you to think before answering and elaborate on your answers show that the other party is interested in what you have to say and usually help to keep the conversation going on for longer.

2. They are quick to respond to your messages and don’t leave you hanging.

When I was chatting to my (now) husband online I always looked forward to his messages and he never kept me waiting too long with his responses! If I sent a message, I would usually get a response within 24 hours (I’m not suggesting this should be the rule, but it worked for me) and even when he couldn’t send a full message for one reason or the other, he would send a short one just to let me know he’d seen my message and would reply properly soon. This was one way I knew for sure that he liked me.

3. They respect your faith story and are willing to share their own.

We all come to faith in different ways and at different times and if someone likes you, they will respect your faith story. They won’t judge you for your past and they’ll be willing to share how they came to faith themselves and what their faith means to them.

4. They pray for you and with you especially when things are tough.

If you’re talking with someone regularly and sharing different aspects of your life with them, you can tell they like you if they offer to pray for you and with you, especially when you are going through a tough time. Praying for someone is one way to show that you care for them and want the best for them.

5. They make an effort to get to know you better.

A clear way to tell that someone likes you is if they make an effort to get to know more about you. Asking you questions about your likes and dislikes, friendships, hobbies and plans for the future are all ways to show they are interested.

6. When you talk on the phone or on video calls the conversation (mostly) flows.

This can be a tricky one as some people are more comfortable face to face, however, if the conversation is flowing, and you find yourself chatting or talking without too much awkwardness, it’s probably because you like each other.

7. They suggest dates or activities they think you’ll like.

If you’ve mentioned that you love bowling, for example, and they suggest you both go bowling someday, that’s a sure way of knowing they like you. Double points if they’re not a fan of bowling!

8. They offer help where needed and introduce you to things they are interested in.

When I first started chatting to my husband, I was planning a trip to America. It turned out he had lived in America for some time and he quickly offered to help me with my itinerary and introduced me to places and food joints that he visited and enjoyed. I was really touched by this and knew he liked me for sure!

There are many other ways to tell if someone likes you – and how you can let someone know if you like them – but hopefully, this list helps you on your journey of finding someone great online!


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