Five reasons why you should never ghost someone


The term ‘ghosting’ means to suddenly cut all ties and communication with someone you have been dating. Whilst some people claim that they think suddenly vanishing is less hurtful than a straight up rejection, the opposite is true. Studies have shown that that a clear ‘Thanks, but no thanks’ is much better for us than being ignored. Here are five reasons why ghosting someone is never acceptable.

It’s cowardly and immature

Unless someone has behaved badly towards you, crossed boundaries or made you feel unsafe, they deserve to be treated with respect. Ghosting is a cowardly and immature way out of a situation, and highlights your own fragility and insecurity as someone not able to have a grown up conversation. If you claim you’re looking for a serious relationship but still go around ghosting people, you need to have a long, hard look at yourself.

It doesn’t provide closure

When you ghost someone, you don’t definitively turn them down. This will leave them wondering what went wrong and trying to figure out if you might turn up again. They may even be genuinely worried for your safety, if you’ve suddenly vanished. Essentially, it doesn’t allow them to move on with a clear mind and open heart, which just isn’t fair.

It makes you look bad

We all care about what other people think of us, so it should bother you that ghosting makes you look bad. Whilst you might think you’ll never see this person again, so it doesn’t matter, you just never know when they might turn up again in your life.

It doesn’t help you grow

If you want to settle down in a long term relationship, you need to learn how to communicate with another person, even when it feels uncomfortable. Real relationships aren’t all sunshine and flowers, and require difficult conversations and being honest about your feelings. If you keep ghosting people because it’s too hard to have a frank talk with them, you’ll never be ready for a proper relationship.

It makes dating harder for everyone

Ghosting puts people off dating, which makes it harder for everyone to meet someone. Treating the rest of the dating community with respect makes it a more enjoyable and less stressful place to be. What goes around comes around, and the more you ghost, the more likely it is that someone will ghost you.

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