DAE crave intimacy but enjoys being alone and doesn’t want to get into the dynamics of dating?

27f here. The concept of dating (intentionally going out and finding someone, getting to know each other, etc.) isn’t something I want to go through. Personality-wise I don’t know how to flirt at all and I feel sick and like I’m not being myself when I try. When guys flirt with me or have sent suggestive texts in the past, I don’t know how to respond except to be friendly and platonic-sounding back which just kills the whole flirty vibe of the conversations.

I also really enjoy being by myself and wish things could happen naturally and without me having to actively seek out someone, like with the friendships I have in my life. I’ve never dated anyone before or been exclusive with anyone, and I’m fine with that.

At the same time though, I crave intimacy and I’m a bit scared of being single forever. I wish I could be true to my non-flirty, friendly self and also not die alone lol.

Do you relate to this? And if so, how do you deal with this? Is it possible to be a really non-flirty person but also be in a relationship?

Edit: Thanks for the awards!! I didn’t know so many people would relate to this, it helps me to know that I’m not the only one ?

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