27f here. The concept of dating (intentionally going out and finding someone, getting to know each other, etc.) isn’t something I want to go through. Personality-wise I don’t know how to flirt at all and I feel sick and like I’m not being myself when I try. When guys flirt with me or have sent suggestive texts in the past, I don’t know how to respond except to be friendly and platonic-sounding back which just kills the whole flirty vibe of the conversations.
I also really enjoy being by myself and wish things could happen naturally and without me having to actively seek out someone, like with the friendships I have in my life. I’ve never dated anyone before or been exclusive with anyone, and I’m fine with that.
At the same time though, I crave intimacy and I’m a bit scared of being single forever. I wish I could be true to my non-flirty, friendly self and also not die alone lol.
Do you relate to this? And if so, how do you deal with this? Is it possible to be a really non-flirty person but also be in a relationship?
Edit: Thanks for the awards!! I didn’t know so many people would relate to this, it helps me to know that I’m not the only one ?