Though watching porn is a near-daily habit for most men, many experience fatigue after seeing the same ‘ole routine—on repeat. Instead of seeking more intense x-rated videos, it’s worth considering if a cyber sex website is a fit for you. Many associate this type of dirty messaging with early AOL chat rooms or for those folks who can’t manage to get laid in real life, but as technology has advanced, so has the quality of online exchanges. As an outlet to express your kinks and fantasies with strangers, have an indulgent conversation you wouldn’t have in person or to blow off some steam (literally), there are plenty of dating sites that frankly are better than porn.
With these websites, you can text, chat or watch a stranger in real time, making it a two-way street, instead of the one-sided perspective of porn. While most of these sites do require a small fee, if you’re ready to spice up your routine, it’s worth a shot. Here, some steamy sites to consider:
As one of the largest most trusted and recommended hookup dating sites within the industry, XMatch offers you many ways to cybersex. In addition to chat rooms and videos, they also have a unique feature that makes the experience even more hands on than you thought possible. Their feature ‘Live Action’ allows you to tune-in to model cams, join others in their own video or create your own X-rated scene for others to watch. If you get turned on by voyeurism but want to conceal your identity (we feel ya), just make sure your face is out of the frame. To take cybersexing to another level, you can buy a specific sex toy from XMatch and opt in to their Connexion feature. You then choose a model from their database and you can watch as she has sex with her toy while you have sex with yours—even allowing you to feel one another move. Talk about intense!
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Also one of the best known cybersex hookup sites on the internet, AdultFriendFinder has a large database of flirty—and ahem, horny—singles. You will need to fork over the cash for this destination, but once you’re signed up, you can have your kink however you’d like it. From their search function that gives you the option of sorting by penis or breast size to your go-to sexual position, you’ll find exactly what gets you riled up—and fast. Another perk of this site that makes it better than porn is the option to have one-on-one video chat or orgy ones, letting you be part of your own virtual ‘gangbang.’
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While the other sites in this list blend cyber sex options with matchmaking, Cams.com is all about owning the hell out of the cams space, with beautiful models and lots of variety. You can easily find the typical 18-30 year old curvy blond, but if that isn’t your bag, all ages, body types, ethnicities and sexual orientations are represented.
If fetishes are what you are looking for, you’ll find them all.The interface is easy to use and Cams.com videos are all HD quality, and there is an “interactive option” that involves something called…wait for it…Teledildonics, which effectively means that users can connect via bluetooth an app, and assuming they have the technology, give and receive pleasure. Progress!
Another hub for cybersex, Flirt.com allows real-time exchanges for their members. Though most of these are part of an upgraded membership, you’ll appreciate how the site goes above and beyond to protect its members from bots. When you’re texting about the things you’d really like to do to the woman on the other end, you can rest easy she isn’t a programmed computer app simply sending flirty messages. If your purpose for engaging in digital sex acts is to learn more about a specific kink you have, Flirt.com invites everyone to engage. Fetish-specific chats give you the open invite to talk to others who share your admiration for feet, furries, flippers or whatever gets you going.
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Perhaps you’re intrigued by the idea of cybersex as an alternative to watching porn—but you’re not quite ready to spend a hefty monthly fee. Experiment this type of interaction with BeNaughty, which doesn’t require a paid upgrade to live chat. Instead, an affordable monthly membership gives you access to every single member. When you strike up a conversation with a PG-13 pick-up line, you can send photos and type out messages with anyone you’re attracted to. Because the site is straightforward—just consider the name!—everyone here is in the market for cybersex, ensuring no gray lines are crossed.
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With more than 80 million users, your chances of having an experience that’s even hotter than porn is high with this appropriately-named website. Much like other hook-up centric dating sites, here, you can search by keywords—whether you’re in the mood to experience a threesome or a BDSM moment. You also have the option to engage in in live member videos, stream yourself doing whatever you’d like and direct-message those profiles that you’re turned on by. It’s on the more budget-friendly side, too, at $30 a month to access the whole site. Though plenty of porn is free, this is an upgraded experience that’ll stimulate many sense.
Let’s be real: porn is quite a visual experience, and when you make the move to cybersex destinations, you’ll use your eyes to scope the scene. With this website, you can search by sexual activities, body type, sizes and other factors, and take a compatibility test to match with like-minded users. Once you’ve found your special corner of kink, it’s time to turn up the heat by joining in on a member’s live show or have an intimate video chat with a specific someone. If you’re more into the watch but don’t engage, live cams are easy-enough to turn you on as you watch other members instruct the models on what to do with their bodies.
Like girls who wear glasses? Into thigh-highs? Want to have an intellectual conversation before it turns hot-hot-hot? Consider Passion.com, which doesn’t feature quite as many members as other competitors, but is rated for having genuine exchanges with real people. You can participate in everything from model chats and webcam to group sex chats, or have your own live action show. What’s nice is their search function to know who is online right this second—and ready to get things going with you.
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How to Choose The Best Cybersex Site
While some might prefer “old school” Cyber-sexing, using internet chat rooms like (IRC web chats or talkers) others might be open to double down on technology, and certainly, not all Cybersex sites are alike in this regard, with some more decidedly pro-technology to enhance the experience. Some sites, like Chaturbate, allow participants to live stream both ways, which is a big commitment for those a little less comfortable in their skin IRL. Other Webcam oriented sites (like XMatch and Cams.com) are all about “Teledildonics” and using physical tools to make virtual connections as real as possible.
The exciting element of cybersex is that it removes a layer of anonymity, in that unlike porn, you are somehow involved in the live act, albeit virtually. This also happens to also be a drawback if you don’t approach with some caution. Make sure that you don’t connect to any service with your primary email address and also make sure that the service you are connecting to value’s privacy by doing a bit of research before you leap in.
If you are trying to make new connexions online with the goal of Cybersex, costs can shoot up pretty quickly. Straight up cam sites like Chaturbate, Live Jasmine or Camsoda usually have some sort of token system, and tokens really start to fly out of your virtual wallet when you increase interactivity, like going C2C (Cam2Cam) or activating two way audio.
Cybersex trafficking is a thing, with performers coerced to participate through threat of physical harm. While we all can be down with freedom to express ourselves sexually, we should not be down to spend money on any service that forces performers to work. Do your part and make sure the sites you visit are above board, so you can have dirty fun with a clean conscience.